My Home is Messy, But that’s Okay
“Home is where the heart is”.
Home is the place you go where you’ll always have good food, memories are made and everyone loves you. The place you would rather be then anywhere else in the world.
Carpets vacuumed, floors swept and dishes done. In addition, piles of laundry were hidden. Where everything had a place and it wasn’t acceptable to leave things around. My Grandma was always miserable because she was constantly cleaning. That is the thing I remember most about the house I grew up in.
My favorite memories growing up were fun creative birthday parties, dying Easter Eggs, always having a Boxer to snuggle up with, popcorn and movie nights, learning how to scrapbook and learning important life lessons.
And none of those were memories created in the clean house that I grew up in.
Those memories were created at my Aunts house. Ever since I can remember the kitchen has never been fully functional, and very rarely was the sink clear of dishes. Laundry was around the house and tables were usually covered. Shoes and coats weren’t always in the right place. An office that served more as a catching ground for everything, and a place where making a mess and not cleaning it up immediately happened more often than not, and that was okay.
My home is filled with Toys & has Fingerprints on Everything and is Never Quiet
My hair is usually a mess and I’m always Tired
But there is always love and laughter here
In twenty years my children won’t remember my house or my hair but they will remember the time we spent together and the love they felt
Reasons why it’s okay to have a messy home
“Cleaning a house with little kids is like shovel a sidewalk while it’s still snowing.”
A 3 year old that’s an energetic whirlwind of a tornado and her 1 year old sidekick live in my home. Anything and everything they can play with they do, then it goes on the floor while they move to the next task. It’s an endless cycle.
Chairs, tables, countertops, couches and chairs weren’t made to never be used. It’s not natural. They’re a place to put a sippy cup, or two, or three. To dump school books, notebooks, coats, purses, bags, and even as a storage place for the pile of laundry that’s been building up over the week and may or may not be put away sometime in the near future.
And lets face it, with adventurous little ones in the house, laundry never stays put away for long anyways.
Moms have a never ending to-do list of things that need to be done. All of those could be classified as more important then cleaning.
We cook dinner for our families every night. That takes time and effort, and leaves a mess in the process.
We’re burnt out. Our entire day was spent listening to both kids scream, cry and yell about every single thing. Both toddlers were in tow and cranky on the hundred errands that needed to be run. The kids woke up every single hour, on the hour, the night before.
Does it really matter what burned us out? No.
Take a break. Have some self-care time. Kids need a Mom who’s okay. Not a spotless home every second of every day.
Normal Homes are Messy
The one room that will never be clean.
That room. Usually a guest bedroom, or a garage. Mine happens to be my sons room. (Don’t worry, he doesn’t use his room). It’s the room that always has a closed door, and guests are asked to avoid it. No matter how many times you’ve tried, it just never stays clean. It’s our personal storage or dumping ground for anything and everything.
Paint on the walls and milk stains on the floor.
Painting is fun, especially for toddlers. It’s even more fun when Mom leaves the room for one second and walls are nearby.
Sippy cups and bottles are thrown around 1000 times per day, per kid. When there are multiple littles running around, cleaning up all those little spills just isn’t possible.
Never cleaning kids bath toys out of the bath tub.
That’s the beauty of shower curtains. Just close them. But lets be honest, when the little ones are the only ones using the tub the toys are in, who cares if they toys get put away. Toddlers certainly don’t.
It’s okay to have a messy home and be OK with it.
A mess is evidence that your family had fun that day, and at the end of the day that’s what really matters. They made more memories that they’ll remember as they grow up.
Messes mean love, attention and devotion to making memories.
We could spend all day everyday cleaning our homes. I’d rather spend that time reading books with my kids, playing with them, or just having fun with them, or binge watching Greys Anatomy for the hundredth time.
How would you rather spend your days? I bet it’s not cleaning from the time you get up until the time you go to bed and barely being able to spend time with your kids.